What If You Outgrow The Frame?

What happens when the old frame no longer holds you?

When the practices that once brought you comfort start to feel hollow—or even harmful. When the songs, the prayers, the rhythms of faith you once trusted feel more like triggers than nourishment. When you start to notice that you can’t quite “get back” to the version of yourself that fit inside the world you were given.

You want to feel safe again. You want to feel connected. But what used to work… doesn’t.

The dissonance is real.

Maybe the people around you are still in it. Still praying the same prayers. Still offering the same advice: “Just trust God.” “Just pray about it.” “Lean not on your own understanding.”

But those words no longer land the way they used to. You try to bring up your doubts or questions, and you’re met with silence… or concern… or a well-intentioned attempt to fix you.

And that’s when the loneliness sets in. Because it’s not just about what you don’t believe anymore. It’s about where you no longer belong.

This is a kind of grief.

The kind that doesn’t always have a name. The kind that no one sends flowers for.

You’re grieving the loss of a worldview, a structure, maybe a sense of certainty or safety. You may also be grieving relationships that suddenly feel more distant—or conditional. And it’s disorienting. You’re not sure what you believe now, or where to turn, or who gets it.

Here’s what I want you to know:

You’re not broken for asking questions. You’re not lost for outgrowing something. You’re not a problem because you no longer fit into someone else’s framework.

You’re going through something big—and you deserve support.

What Group Work Can Offer

In the wake of spiritual disorientation, what many people need most is space—space to be real, uncertain, messy, and still held with care.

Group therapy offers something unique:

• A place to explore without fear—free from judgment, correction, or pressure to believe a certain way.

  
  

• Support without an agenda—just honest connection with others who are walking similar paths.

  
  

• The relief of not having to “perform” faith, certainty, or peace when what you really feel is grief, confusion, or anger.

  
  

• A space where your story matters, but you’re not required to defend it.

  
  

• Witnessing others in their process, which can help validate and soften your own.

You don’t have to do this alone. And you don’t have to have it all figured out to begin.

This is why I’m creating a therapy group for people deconstructing and healing from religious harm.

This group is for folks in the middle of the deconstruction process—or quietly navigating the emotional aftermath of leaving a faith that once shaped their world.

It’s a space where:

• You don’t have to explain yourself.

  
  

• You don’t have to believe anything specific.

  
  

• You don’t have to hide the parts of you that no longer fit the mold.

  
  

It’s a space to bring your grief, your doubt, your questions, and your complexity. To hear, and be heard, by others walking a similar path.

A Note on Deconstruction and Trauma

Not everyone who is deconstructing their faith has experienced religious trauma—and not every painful experience in religion is traumatic. But many people find that as they begin to question or leave their faith, old wounds come to the surface. This group is a space where we can safely explore both: the pain that might still be unhealed, and the uncertainty of stepping into something new.

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If this resonates, I’d love to hear from you.Click here to learn more about the group, or reply to this email to connect directly.

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You’re not alone in this. And this—this dissonance, this in-between place—might be the beginning of something sacred, too.